Integration of Near Death & Out of Body Experiences

I recently completed Dr. Peter Levine’s Eye of the Needle Part 2 training in San Diego, which focuses on the integration of near-death experiences (NDEs). This training was both deeply moving and eye-opening, offering profound insights into what happens when the body, psyche, and spirit are brought to the threshold between life and death.

What Are Near-Death and Out-of-Body Experiences?

NDEs can arise from a broad range of circumstances, including:

  • Cardiac arrest and heart attacks

  • Serious accidents or injuries

  • Surgeries and use of anesthetics

  • Suffocation or near-drowning

  • Life-threatening illness or poisoning

  • High fevers

  • Birth conditions involving lack of oxygen (anoxia/hypoxia)

  • Coma or concussion

  • Episodes of extreme emotional distress

Many peak experiences, moments of heightened awareness and transcendence, can also resemble NDEs, even when physical danger isn’t immediately present.

Closely related are Out-of-Body Experiences (OBEs), in which people perceive themselves as leaving or floating outside their physical body. These may occur during medical crises (such as surgery or cardiac arrest) or spontaneously, often leaving people uncertain how to make sense of what happened.

At their core, NDEs and OBEs are profound psycho-physiological events, not merely hallucinations or mental illness. They occur when a person is close to death or in a crisis so intense that the nervous system moves beyond its ordinary bounds of functioning.

The phrase eye of the needle refers to this liminal, transitional state between life and death. Biologically, it is similar to thanatosis, a state of shock or immobility in which the body “plays dead” as a survival response. In this place, voluntary activity ceases, and the nervous system hovers between collapse and transcendence.

Dr. Levine describes it as a space where the boundaries between existence and non-existence blur—an experience that is both terrifying and awe-inspiring.

Common Features of NDEs and OBEs

While every near-death or out-of-body experience is unique, research and personal accounts show that people often report:

  • A sense of peace, tranquility, or bliss

  • A life review or reliving of key memories

  • Feelings of omniscience or hyper-awareness

  • Separation from the body (floating above oneself, watching from outside)

  • Emotional detachment or loss of fear

  • A sense of unity with the cosmos

  • Transcendence of the physical realm

  • Entering a void or state of “nothingness”

For many, these experiences feel deeply real and transformative, yet paradoxically destabilizing when they return to everyday life.

Trauma and Polarities: Heaven and Hell Realms

NDEs and OBEs often involve a passage through extreme states:

  • Freeze, pain, and terror (the “hell realm”)

  • Dissociation or absence of sensation, followed by bliss, peace, or oneness (the “heaven realm”)

Without integration, people may find themselves stuck in one polarity or oscillating between both. This can leave them confused, disoriented, or disconnected from life.

A 2019 study published by Eureka Alert/AAAS revealed that one in ten people worldwide report having had a near-death experience, with 95% of out-of-body experiences occurring in medical settings. This shows just how common yet under-discussed these phenomena really are.

Unintegrated NDEs and OBEs can profoundly affect day-to-day living—impacting physical health, mood, relationships, and spiritual well-being. The nervous system, once overwhelmed, may stay dysregulated, leaving a person vulnerable to anxiety, depression, or physical symptoms.

Through Somatic Experiencing® (SE) and Dr. Levine’s Eye of the Needle framework, the body is supported to:

  • Release bound survival energy held in freeze states

  • Gradually reconnect with sensations and emotions in safe ways

  • Reconcile the polarities of terror and bliss into a coherent whole

  • Return to regulation of the autonomic nervous system

This allows people to not only survive an NDE or OBE but to integrate it as a source of wisdom, resilience, and transformation.

Returning Through the Needle

When we are able to “pass through the eye of the needle” and reinhabit our bodies, life becomes more grounded, vibrant, and meaningful. The gift of an NDE or OBE lies not just in touching transcendent states, but in bringing that perspective back into embodied living—into our relationships, choices, and presence with the world.

This is my wish for us all: that no matter how close we come to the threshold, we find our way home again—fully alive, deeply human, and open to life’s unfolding mystery.

Expanding the Window of Tolerance

As babies, when we have healthy attachment with attuned, available, and nurturing caregivers, we lay the foundations for the optimal development of our brain and nervous system. The co-regulation offered by caregivers, e.g. rocking, soothing, making eye contact, responding to cries, teaches our nervous system how to return to calm after stress. Over time, this gives us the ability to self-regulate independently as we grow older.

But what happens if this foundation is disrupted? Or if trauma, loss, or overwhelming life experiences come into play later in life? To answer this, it’s helpful to understand the Window of Tolerance.

The term Window of Tolerance was coined by Dr. Dan Siegel to describe the range of emotional and physiological arousal we can experience while still being able to function and cope effectively.

When we are within our window, we can ride the ups and downs of life—hurt, anxiety, sadness, pain, anger—and still find our way back to balance. For example, you might feel stressed before a presentation, but after taking a few deep breaths, talking it through with a friend, or finishing the presentation itself, you return to calm.

We all fluctuate in arousal during the day—it’s normal to get excited, worried, tired, or discouraged—but if we have strategies and enough capacity in our nervous system, we can find our way back without becoming overwhelmed.

When we are pushed outside the window, though, things change:

  • Hyperarousal (too much activation): fight/flight energy, anxiety, panic, anger, overwhelm, hypervigilance.

  • Hypoarousal (too little energy): shutdown, numbness, depression, exhaustion, disconnection.

The below diagram (if included) usually shows how we move in and out of the window, with periods of activation followed by settling.

Trauma and Attachment Wounds

When we experience trauma or have unmet attachment needs, our nervous system’s natural capacity to self-regulate can be disrupted.

  • Our senses may become heightened.

  • Experiences and emotions feel more intense.

  • Strategies that usually work (breathing, distraction, self-talk, connection) may no longer be accessible.

  • Our window of tolerance shrinks, giving us less space to ebb and flow with life’s ups and downs.

This is why someone with unresolved trauma may feel overwhelmed by things that seem “small” to others, it’s not a matter of willpower or weakness, but of nervous system capacity.

Learning how to track and shift emotions becomes a powerful tool for widening this window again, so that regulation and integration are possible throughout the body, mind, and brain. Without this, people often get stuck in “On” (hyperarousal) or “Off” (hypoarousal).

Let me explain these states further:

  • Calm Arousal is optimal. We move in and out of this range naturally all day long.

  • Hyperarousal happens when fear, pain, anger, or trauma triggers overwhelm us. The nervous system gets stuck on “On”, racing thoughts, rapid heartbeat, hypervigilance, inability to rest or sleep, emotional flooding, even dissociative rage.

  • Hypoarousal often comes after too much hyperarousal. When the overwhelm surpasses what the brain and body can tolerate, we shut down. The nervous system gets stuck on “Off”, numbness, exhaustion, flat affect, depression, disconnection, loss of appetite, sleeping excessively.

Interestingly, the nervous system doesn’t let us stay in one state forever. For example:

  • After too much anxiety, the body may numb itself into shutdown.

  • After too long in shutdown, people may gravitate toward risky or stimulating behaviors (drugs, thrill-seeking, conflict) just to feel alive again.

This seesaw can become a survival pattern when regulation hasn’t been learned or embodied.

Without healthy co-regulation in childhood, or when trauma is unresolved, people often turn to whatever strategies they can find to try to regulate:

  • Someone with excessive fear or anxiety (hyperarousal) may use depressants (alcohol, sedatives) to quiet their system.

  • Someone feeling flat or disconnected (hypoarousal) may seek stimulants (caffeine, sugar, drugs, risky behavior) to feel alive.

While understandable, these strategies don’t create lasting regulation. The true goal is to help the nervous system learn safer, healthier pathways back into balance.

Co-Regulation in Action: Broadening the Window

Parents, partners, and loved ones can play a key role by:

  • Naming what they see: “It looks like you’re feeling overwhelmed. Do you want to take a break?”

  • Offering presence and grounding: a calm voice, gentle touch, or simply sitting quietly with someone.

  • Encouraging mindful noticing: “What do you feel in your body right now? What might help you feel better?”

Dr. Siegel calls this “name it to tame it”, naming emotions helps reduce their intensity, creating a sense of validation and being seen.

When children, teens, or adults practice noticing sensations, emotions, and needs, they begin to rewire their nervous system toward greater resilience.

Ultimately, healing means expanding the window of tolerance so that:

  • People can experience a wider range of emotions without being thrown into dysregulation.

  • The nervous system has more flexibility and resilience.

  • Life feels more spacious, grounded, and livable.

By cultivating co-regulation, self-awareness, and trauma-informed tools, we can grow our capacity to move through emotional intensity and return to calm more readily.

Somatic Stress Busters for Kids & Parents

Peter Levine’s Somatic Tools to Help Kids Feel Safe and Resilient

During stressful times, children often sense more than we realize. Even if they don’t fully understand what’s happening, they pick up on the anxiety, fear, and overwhelm of the adults around them. Without clear support, this can leave them feeling frightened, confused, or sad.

I recently listened to a powerful interview with Peter Levine, PhD, the founder of Somatic Experiencing (SE), and Dr. Maggie Kline, Senior SE Faculty Member, psychotherapist, and retired school psychologist. In this 45-minute discussion, they shared simple, science-backed tools that caregivers and Somatic Experiencing practitioners can use to support children right now.

You can access the full interview here.

Why Kids React Differently to Stress

When adults face external threats, we often move into fight, flight, or, even when overwhelmed, collapse. But children can’t simply fight or flee. Their biology drives them to seek safety through attachment, turning toward parents or caregivers for grounding and reassurance.

That’s why it’s so important for adults to first regulate themselves. When we balance and ground, we not only soothe our own nervous system but also prevent passing our anxiety onto kids. Children feel safer when they know:

  • They are protected.

  • They can express their feelings without judgment.

  • Their caregivers are present, calm, and reliable.

Somatic Practices for Parents and Kids

Peter Levine suggests weaving everyday activities into family life to restore safety and resilience:

  • Storytelling – Make up stories together to spark imagination and connection.

  • Movement and Play – Dance, sing, cook, or exercise as a family.

  • Nature Walks – Time outdoors helps regulate both body and mind.

  • Deep Listening – Give kids space to share their feelings and be heard.

  • Laughter – A natural way for children to release stress and return to creativity and joy.

These simple practices remind kids that they are safe and supported, while also strengthening their natural resilience.

Somatic Experiencing Exercises

For both adults and kids, SE offers practical tools to reset the nervous system:

  • 8-Minute Video: Peter Levine guides adults through grounding practices to reduce fear and panic. [Click here to access it.]

  • 5-Minute Video: Designed specifically for children, this video shares playful yet effective SE exercises. [Watch it here.]

Even just a few minutes of these practices can shift the body out of survival mode and back into a state of ease.

The truth is, resilience isn’t about avoiding stress, it’s about learning how to return to balance. By grounding ourselves and using Somatic Experiencing tools, we give children the gift of safety, creativity, and confidence.

✨ Keep well, nourish yourself, and seek out daily moments of joy. Your regulation is their regulation.

If you would like more support with you or your child’s nervous system regulation, feel free to book a one-on-one session here.

To enjoy one of my guided meditations, including binaural beats, to calm your nervous system, please click here.

The ACE Study: Is Your Past Making You Sick?

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) are potentially traumatic events that occur during childhood, such as abuse, neglect, or growing up in a chaotic home, that can have profound, long-lasting impacts on our health and well-being as adults.

While childhood trauma can often remain unspoken or forgotten, the body remembers. Unresolved trauma can keep the nervous system in a chronic state of stress, which fuels inflammation in the body. Over time, this low-grade but persistent inflammatory response can manifest as physical illness, mental health struggles, or even reduced life expectancy.

The ACE Study (Adverse Childhood Experiences Study), one of the largest public health studies ever conducted, shows us just how strong this mind-body connection really is.

Research continues to demonstrate the powerful link between stress and physical health. Consider these findings:

  • Adults caring for a spouse with dementia show increased levels of cytokines, the proteins that drive inflammation.

  • Experiencing the death of an adult sibling significantly raises one’s risk of heart attack.

  • Pregnant women facing major stress have double the risk of miscarriage.

  • A father experiencing financial strain is more likely to sustain serious physical injuries.

  • The death of a child triples a parent’s risk of developing multiple sclerosis.

  • Intense emotional fear or loss can trigger “broken heart syndrome,” a weakening of the heart muscle that mimics a heart attack.

When trauma occurs early in life, before we’ve developed coping mechanisms, its effects can be even more profound.

What Counts as an ACE?

If you experienced any of the following in childhood, you may have ACEs that are still shaping your health today:

  • Experiencing violence, abuse, or neglect

  • Witnessing domestic violence or community violence

  • Having a family member attempt or die by suicide

  • Growing up in a household with substance misuse or mental illness

  • Experiencing instability from parental separation, incarceration, or chronic stress

These early adversities undermine a child’s sense of safety, stability, and bonding, leaving the nervous system stuck in survival mode.

The Health Impacts of ACEs in Adulthood

The ACE Study uncovered striking correlations between early trauma and adult health:

  • Children with 7+ ACEs have a 360% higher chance of developing heart disease as adults.

  • More than half of women with Irritable Bowel Syndrome report a history of childhood trauma.

  • Adults with 4 ACEs are twice as likely to be diagnosed with cancer than those with none.

  • For each ACE score, the risk of hospitalization for autoimmune disease rises 20%.

  • An ACE score of 4 increases the likelihood of depression by 460%.

  • Having 6 or more ACEs shortens life expectancy by almost 20 years.

These numbers highlight a sobering truth: our biography becomes our biology.

According to the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) study, the rougher your childhood, the higher your score is likely to be and the higher your risk for addictive behaviours and various physical and mental/emotional health problems later.

According to U.S. research:

  • 64% of people grew up with at least one ACE.

  • More than 1,500 studies worldwide have confirmed the connection between childhood trauma and long-term health.

  • The World Health Organization now uses the ACE Questionnaire in 14 countries to help identify trauma-related health risks.

  • In the United States, 29 states and Washington D.C. have adopted the ACE framework in public health initiatives.

This means the majority of us carry some form of unresolved stress or trauma from childhood, and many of us are living with its effects today.

Healing is Possible

The ACE Study is not the end of the story. While trauma imprints on the nervous system and body, healing and resilience are absolutely possible. Modalities such as Somatic Experiencing® help the body release stored trauma, regulate the nervous system, and reduce inflammation.

Here’s what one client shared about her journey:

“I am extremely grateful for the 8 Somatic Experiencing and energy therapy sessions I recently received with Jaya. I have seen a tremendous shift in my mind, body and spirit. Inflammation in my body, especially my colon, has reduced (when my Doctor recently tested my Rheumatoid Factor, it had lowered significantly). I have a sense of calm now and no longer feel that I am hypervigilant. This allows me to be able to attend and engage in social activities without anxiety. It has also helped me to be more present in each moment and feel more fully alive.

Jaya is an amazing, knowledgeable, gentle healer and has the expertise to support you wherever you are. I have learned so much about myself and appreciate each session that I have. I wish everyone to experience the wonderful transformations that I have experienced with Jaya. We are worth the investment.”
– Carol, Ottawa

We all deserve to live vibrant, thriving lives, mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. The ACE Study gives us powerful insight into why so many of us struggle with chronic illness or emotional overwhelm. But it also points to a solution: by addressing unresolved trauma, we can break the cycle of stress and reclaim our health.

You are not defeated. You are carrying the imprint of what you’ve been through. And with the right support, you can heal.

If you feel called to begin your journey of somatic trauma integration, I would be honored to walk alongside you. Together, we can gently unwind survival patterns, calm your nervous system, and restore the resilience and vitality you were always meant to have.

To book a one-on-one session, click here.

To enjoy a guided meditation that supports healing of addictions and learning new information, click here and then on the meditation entitled, “Healing from Within.”

To learn more about the ACE Study, click here!

Listening to the Voice of Wisdom Within

In the fall of 2020, even though my health was quite good overall, a quiet voice of wisdom inside whispered: “You need to take a couple of months off in the new year to fully recover your health on all levels.”

At first, I brushed it off. The thought of stepping away from my work for that long felt daunting. I’m a single parent, the sole provider for my son, and an entrepreneur with clients who count on me. Not to mention the social pressures, people often question, judge, or project their own fears when they see someone prioritizing rest and renewal. Still, the voice persisted. I knew in my bones that if I didn’t listen now, my body would eventually force me to.

So I chose to listen to my gut’s wisdom.

In January, I took time off and went to Austin and Mexico with my son and some friends. I gave myself permission to slow down, to receive healing sessions, and to spend weeks playing on the beach and sinking my hands into warm sand. Mornings often began with runs down the street under bright skies; afternoons were for swimming and surfing in the ocean; evenings for fresh food straight from the sea, vibrant juices, poetry, prayer, meditation, and listening deeply to Spirit.

By early March, when I returned to offering sessions, my health was almost completely back on track. Some issues I had carried for years, things I wasn’t even sure how to heal, resolved themselves simply because I had given my body, mind, and spirit what they needed: rest, nature, movement, nourishment, joy, and connection.

I share this because I know the temptation is to say: “That’s nice for her, but I could never do that because…” Believe me, I understand. I’m a full-time single mom, self-employed, with every reason to talk myself out of taking a leap like this. But I chose to do it anyway. Not because it was convenient, but because it was necessary. It was what my body’s wisdom was telling me to do.

My health and happiness are central to the life I want to live, and to the well I want to draw from as I support others. That’s true for all of us. When we tend to our deepest needs, we don’t just restore ourselves—we become more resourced, more alive, and more available to those we love.

So if there’s a wise voice inside you whispering something, maybe to rest, to slow down, to seek support, to move, to change—please know you can trust it. The truth is, we can do the things we’re called to, even when it feels impossible. It simply takes courage. Courage to listen, courage to act, and courage to believe that our well-being is worth it.

And I promise you: it is.

To read another blog on how to trust your gut instinct and intuition (and separate it from old trauma responses), click here!

Somatic Trauma Integration in Times of Collective Stress

Reflections on Connection, Survival, and Humanity

I recently read a powerful blog post by my Somatic Experiencing colleague, Madeline Dietrich, that deeply resonated with me. Her words reflected what I have been carrying inside for some time, and I felt inspired to expand on her reflections here.

She wrote:

“In my Somatic Experiencing work, I remind people that humans are mammals. In our basic make up we’re pack animals. Instinctually, we know our survival depends on being part of a tribe – on belonging. So, here we find ourselves in this very odd contradictory situation of opposing messages – your supposed survival depends on avoiding people and yet our survival, especially our emotional survival, depends on being in connection. It feels helpful to just articulate this cross current of imperatives.”

Madeline then asked:

“My concern is that this current situation will be our reality for some time to come, and I wonder what will be left of our social fabric by the time it’s over. How will we repair this rupture? Maybe friends and family will be okay, and will make those repairs, over time, but what about the bigger social matrix that holds us together?”

Her words touched something essential in me.

As humans, we are wired for connection. Our nervous systems depend on co-regulation, the way we settle, feel safe, and thrive in the presence of others. When this is disrupted, especially for prolonged periods of time, our survival instincts shift. Instead of moving toward connection, many of us begin to focus on protection.

The lock-downs and restrictions of recent years have amplified this paradox: we are told to isolate for survival, yet our very biology signals that isolation itself can feel like a threat. For children especially, this prolonged disconnection has lasting effects on the nervous system and developing psyche.

The Nervous System Under Collective Stress

One of the unique challenges of this global experience is that we cannot fight or flee the threat. The virus is invisible to our senses, so many people default into freeze responses—a nervous system state where energy becomes trapped, leading to numbness, shutdown, anxiety, or collapse.

For those with histories of childhood trauma, abuse, neglect, or medical trauma, these conditions can reactivate old wounds:

  • Masks may trigger memories of suffocation, anesthesia, or silencing.

  • Restrictions may echo experiences of control or punishment from oppressive systems, including intergenerational trauma from fascist or totalitarian regimes.

  • Social distancing can mirror neglect or abandonment, leading to deep feelings of disconnection and threat.

These somatic triggers aren’t just “in the mind.” They live in the body and nervous system, and they shape how safe, or unsafe, we feel in the present moment.

I often wonder how many people dissociate daily just to get through the demands of this time. I see it in my clients: people who wear masks even when medically exempt, people who go along with rules that overwhelm their bodies, all in order to avoid exclusion or conflict.

This kind of functional freeze may allow survival in the short term, but it comes at the cost of embodiment and vitality. When we disconnect from our bodies too often, we risk losing touch with our deeper needs, emotions, and human connection.

Another consequence of prolonged stress is division. Families and communities have experienced painful conflict over issues like masking, vaccines, hugging, and safety measures. These fractures can feel like further ruptures to the social fabric that normally supports us.

Yet beneath these differences, I believe most of us are doing our best to live according to our core values:

  • Integrity

  • Respect

  • Responsibility

  • Caring for ourselves and others

We are all navigating compromised versions of our “normal” reality. Some people suffer more, some benefit, and most experience a mix of both.

An Invitation to Compassion

As a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and fellow human-being, I share these reflections not to divide, but to invite compassion: for ourselves, for each other, and for our children.

Not everyone has the strength, time, or language to explain why they do what they do. Many people, especially those with pre-verbal trauma, literally cannot articulate the reasons behind their behaviour. They just know what helps them stay embodied and what does not.

When we hold this in mind, we can begin to see one another with more kindness. Instead of judgment, we can meet others with curiosity and compassion.

My hope is that as we navigate collective challenges, we can prioritize both physical health and emotional well-being. That we remember to care not only for our bodies, but also for our humanity.

Because in the end, what keeps us resilient is not only survival—it’s connection.

From Tension to Transformation: Healing Trauma with Somatic Touch

A New Chapter: Completing My Somatic Experiencing® Professional Training

I am so excited to share that I’ve just completed my three-year Somatic Experiencing® (SE) Professional training! This has been an incredible journey of learning, growth, and personal transformation. Most of all, I feel deeply grateful to now be even more skilled in helping people heal from developmental, acute, and complex trauma by addressing trauma where it lives: in the physiology of the body.

In our last six-day module, we learned how to incorporate gentle, therapeutic touch into SE sessions. With full consent, touch can be used to support the joints, diaphragms, and the viscera (our gut organs). Why? Because trauma often leaves survival energy locked inside the body, bound up in these systems.

This can come from experiences of “big T” trauma (such as accidents, surgeries, or violence) as well as “little t” trauma (such as ongoing stress, early developmental disruptions, or attachment wounds). These experiences can overwhelm the nervous system, preventing it from fully processing the event. Instead, the energy gets stored in the body, leaving behind patterns of tension, pain, or dysregulation.

By offering the body support through SE touch work, these bound survival responses are given the opportunity to unwind and release safely—sometimes for the first time.

One of the beautiful things about SE training is that we don’t just learn the techniques, we practice them with each other. During this recent module, I personally experienced profound shifts in my own body. It’s incredible how much tension we can carry without even realizing it… until it is finally released.

These moments of healing reminded me again how powerful and gentle SE can be.

Why Somatic Experiencing® Is So Transformative

At its core, SE helps the autonomic nervous system (the part of us that runs survival responses like fight, flight, and freeze) learn how to regulate itself again. Since the nervous system touches every aspect of our being, this regulation brings wide-reaching benefits, including:

  • Better emotional balance and mood regulation

  • Relief from symptoms of PTSD and traumatic stress

  • Support in unwinding addictive patterns

  • Reduced or eliminated chronic pain

  • Relief from trauma-related symptoms in the musculoskeletal system

  • Increased resilience and vitality in everyday life

Because trauma can also contribute to the development of complex syndromes and diseases, SE may help in unwinding underlying patterns that feed into chronic health issues (often in collaboration with other healthcare professionals).

Finishing this training feels both like a culmination and a beginning. I am thrilled to bring this deeper skill-set into my practice and to continue supporting people on their healing journeys.

Trauma is not a life sentence. With the right support, the nervous system can learn to settle, complete old survival responses, and find new patterns of ease, resilience, and connection.

I am so honored to walk alongside others in this process.

✨ Here’s to new possibilities—for myself, for my clients, and for anyone ready to reclaim their health and wholeness.

Healing Complex Trauma

I just completed another six-day Somatic Experiencing® training as part of the final year of my professional program, and I left feeling completely renewed, not only with new tools to support others, but with deep healing in my own body.

This training focused on how to help people with complex trauma, the kind of trauma that doesn’t just show up as one symptom, but as a whole cluster of challenges in body, mind, and emotions.

Why Trauma Affects the Body

When something overwhelming happens and our body doesn’t get to fully process it, our nervous system can get “stuck” in survival mode. Instead of turning off once the threat has passed, the system keeps running in the background.

This is why trauma often shows up as physical symptoms like:

  • Migraines

  • Digestive troubles (IBS, stomach issues)

  • Chronic fatigue

  • Fibromyalgia and body pain

  • Autoimmune issues

  • Asthma or breathing difficulties

In Western medicine, these are sometimes called “syndromal patterns”—clusters of symptoms that don’t respond well to traditional treatments.

When the Nervous System Gets Pulled in Two Directions

Imagine driving with one foot on the gas and the other on the brake at the same time. That’s what it’s like when trauma lives in the body.

  • The sympathetic system (gas pedal) revs us up into fight or flight.

  • The dorsal vagal system (brake pedal) can push us into freeze or collapse.

When both are stuck “on,” our bodies become drained, tense, and unable to fully heal.

The Missing Piece: Safety and Connection

Thanks to the work of Dr. Stephen Porges (Polyvagal Theory), we now know there’s another branch of the nervous system: the ventral vagal system.

This part of us allows us to:

  • Relax and rest deeply

  • Feel safe in our own skin

  • Connect with others with ease

Healing happens when our nervous system learns how to spend more time here—able to shift smoothly between activation and rest.

How Somatic Experiencing® Helps

Somatic Experiencing doesn’t push or force the body to change. Instead, it gives the nervous system space to complete unfinished survival responses and release the stuck energy of trauma.

Over time, this helps the body reset its natural rhythm, which can also support things like:

  • Stronger immunity

  • Less inflammation

  • Better energy and vitality

  • More resilience in daily life

In short: when your nervous system learns to regulate, your whole body has the chance to heal.

My Personal Shift

During this training, my own nervous system went through a profound reboot. Old pain and areas of numbness in my body fully released. My immune system felt stronger, and I could sense my energy flowing in ways it hadn’t for years.

I truly feel new again. And that’s the gift I want to share with others—because healing isn’t just possible, it’s something your body is always reaching for when given the right support.

An Invitation

If you’ve been living with symptoms that don’t resolve, or if you’ve been told “it’s all in your head,” please know: it’s not your fault, and you don’t have to stay stuck.

Your body holds incredible wisdom. With gentle support, your nervous system can learn to find balance again—and when it does, healing ripples out through every system in your body.

✨ Here’s to a new year, a new rhythm, and new possibilities for your health and well-being.

New Year ~ New Neural Circuitry!

The turn of the year always carries a sense of possibility. We reflect on where we’ve been, what has shaped us, and what we’d like to step into next. Often we resolve to do something different—exercise more, eat better, meditate daily. But lasting change doesn’t come from willpower alone. It comes from something deeper: rewiring the brain itself.

This is where the concept of neuroplasticity—our brain’s ability to reorganize and form new connections—becomes a powerful ally.

For much of the 20th century, science believed the brain was static by adulthood—fixed, unchanging, slowly declining. But now we know the opposite is true:

  • New neurons and connections can be formed at any age.

  • Old pathways can weaken if we stop using them.

  • New patterns of thought, behavior, and emotion can become our default with practice.

Every thought you repeat, every habit you practice, every emotional state you nurture—these are all strengthening certain neural pathways. The hopeful news is this: what you repeat, you become.

A new year offers a natural pause—a threshold moment. Our brains are especially receptive when we step outside of routine and allow ourselves to imagine something new. The symbolic “fresh start” primes your nervous system to open to possibility.

Instead of traditional resolutions that often fade by February, consider setting neural intentions—gentle, repeatable practices that literally rewire your circuitry.

How to Build New Neural Pathways

Here are some powerful ways to engage your brain’s natural plasticity in the months ahead:

  1. Choose One Small Daily Practice

    • 5 minutes of breathwork, a gratitude journal, or a walk outside.

    • Small, consistent repetitions carve stronger pathways than big but unsustainable efforts.

  2. Pair Intention with Emotion

    • The brain encodes change more powerfully when it’s emotionally charged.

    • For example, instead of vaguely saying “I’ll meditate,” anchor the practice to “I want to feel calmer and more open-hearted with my children.”

  3. Engage All Three Brains

    • Head brain: conscious thought, problem-solving.

    • Heart brain: intuition, compassion, emotional wisdom.

    • Gut brain: instinct, grounding, and safety.
      When your intention resonates through all three, change becomes embodied rather than just conceptual.

  4. Practice Rest and Safety

    • The nervous system learns best when it feels safe.

    • Prioritize good sleep, gentle movement, and moments of genuine rest. These allow your brain to integrate new patterns.

  5. Celebrate Micro-Shifts

    • Each time you pause instead of react, soften instead of harden, or choose presence instead of autopilot—you are literally building new wiring.

    • These “micro-moments” add up, becoming your new baseline.

Research in neuroscience shows that the brain’s circuits are shaped by experience-dependent plasticity, meaning, what you do daily is what you reinforce. Even conditions like chronic pain, anxiety, or trauma-related stress involve neural circuits that have become over-practiced. With time and intentionality, those same circuits can be softened and replaced.

In other words, you are not stuck with the brain you have—you are continually shaping it.

A Gentle Invitation

As you step into this new year, notice the moments that invite a different choice. Each breath, each pause, each act of kindness toward yourself is not just a nice idea—it’s the laying of new circuitry. We can do this through the support of alternative mind/body therapies, and related neuroplastic meditations like the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza. For an example of this work, please see my free “Rewire” meditation under “Resources” and then, “Books and Meditations” on my website!

Instead of striving for dramatic transformation overnight, trust in the slow but powerful work of repetition. You’re teaching your brain and body a new way of being. And over time, this becomes your natural rhythm.

This year, may you gift yourself not just with resolutions, but with new neural pathways—ones that lead you home to greater peace, resilience, and joy.

Finding Relief from Stress & Trauma

The way we react, or respond, to the challenges of daily life is a reflection of how much space or tension we are carrying in our nervous system. If life constantly feels overwhelming or stressful, it may be because certain parts of the brain are still burdened by unintegrated feelings, memories, thought patterns, or energies from the past.

Over time, this unresolved stress doesn’t just stay “in the mind.” It shows up in the body. Physical tension, chronic pain, and even disease often develop when the nervous system is not given the chance to reset and heal.

As Canadian physician Dr. Gabor Maté reminds us:

“You cannot separate the mind from the body; whatever happens emotionally will have an impact on your physiology.”

Trauma and the Three Brains

Most of us have experienced some form of trauma—whether big or small. Trauma doesn’t always mean a single catastrophic event; it can also be the accumulation of smaller stresses and hurts over time. When this happens, the three brains—the head brain, the heart brain, and the gut brain—can become mobilized into survival modes such as:

  • Fight or flight: feeling anxious, restless, irritable, hyper-alert.

  • Freeze: feeling numb, shut down, disconnected, or fatigued.

These survival states are brilliant adaptations in the moment of trauma—but when the nervous system never fully discharges the energy, the body continues to live as if the danger is still present.

The Nervous System’s Need to Reset

When the nervous system is given safe space and support to process what it has been holding, it can integrate old memories, feelings, and patterns. This is not about erasing the past—it’s about allowing the body to release what is no longer needed so that healing can unfold.

Without this reset, the nervous system stays stuck in cycles of tension, which can contribute to stress-related illness, autoimmune issues, digestive challenges, pain syndromes, fatigue, and more.

How Somatic Experiencing Supports Healing

A powerful approach to restoring balance in the nervous system is Somatic Experiencing (SE), a body-based trauma healing method developed by Dr. Peter Levine.

Rather than focusing solely on the mind or on retelling traumatic events, SE works gently with the body’s natural rhythms to help it release the survival energy that was “stuck” at the time of trauma. Trauma isn’t in the event itself—it’s in the nervous system’s incomplete response to the event.

Through guided awareness of physical sensations, movements, and impulses, SE helps the nervous system:

  • Discharge survival energy that has been trapped in fight, flight, or freeze.

  • Build capacity to tolerate stress without becoming overwhelmed.

  • Reconnect with safety in the present moment.

  • Restore regulation so the body can shift naturally between activation and rest.

Rather than forcing a story or analysis, SE honors the body’s pace. This gentle, titrated approach allows healing to happen gradually, building resilience and a deeper sense of safety from the inside out.

When the nervous system is given the chance to complete what was once interrupted, the whole body can return to a state of balance, health, and vitality.

A Breath of Relief

Imagine the difference it makes when your body is no longer locked in fight, flight, or freeze. There is more space for calm. More resilience in the face of stress. More freedom to be present in your relationships, your work, and your life.

This is the profound relief we all long for—because when the nervous system heals, the whole self heals.

Your nervous system holds the wisdom of survival, but it also carries the blueprint for your healing. Supporting it is one of the most powerful gifts you can give yourself.